Don't be the Rebound Guy

Maybe you know her from work or the gym.  She’s just fresh out of a relationship and she’s ripe for the picking.  You want to go for it and ask her out before she gets taken by another man.  STOP.  You’re not going to swoop in and rescue her heart.  You’re going to be the rebound guy.

When women first come out of a relationship, thy need time to heal.  They go out with their girlfriends, go on random dates and even take trips they’ve been wanting to take.  They get it out of their system before looking for a serious relationship.  This is not the time to pursue her.  You will just end up as the rebound guy and get hurt. 

So how and when do you go for it?  Well, since you already know her, you can feel her out in your conversations.  Is she talking about what a crazy time she had with her friends or is she talking about chilling at home with her cat and a Netflix film?  If months have gone by and she’s speaking like an independent, confident lady and not about all the bars that she and her friends visited, then she’s ready.  Do you already have her number?  Give her a call.  I must repeat.  Give her a call.  I didn’t say text her.  Call her and just be honest.  Let her know what you admire about her and tell her that you would like to take her out.  She might have been crushing on you already and waiting for you to ask.  When you do go out, please don’t take her to a bar.  Treat her as someone that you respect.  Be a notch above her last relationship so she takes you seriously. 

What if you don’t have her digits?  Well, you’ll have to go ‘old school’ and approach her.  Tell her that you were noticing how great she looks, and let her know that you would be interested in taking her out.  Ask her for her phone number.  Tell her that you will give her a call and set something up.  Also, when you say you’re going to call, then do it.  Don’t make her wait another week.  She will think you aren’t serious, and put you in the zone with the rebound guys she dated.  Remember, be at least a notch better than her ex.  Believe me.  She will notice.