How to Leave That Cheating Husband

There are countless reasons why women need to leave their husbands.  Cheating is a common one. Whatever your reason, don’t do anything on impulse.  This needs to be planned and well prepared.  This decision takes patience and precision.  Be smart about it, and don’t act on a whim.  If you fail to plan, you can plan to fail. 

Here are some tips to make it easier for you to reach your goal of dumping your cheating husband.  Remember….PLANING & PATIENCE!!!

TIP #1

BE PATIENT!! 

Don’t confront him.   Let him think he’s getting away with it.  It will keep his defenses down and make it easier for you to leave.  He will get sloppier and sloppier the more he thinks you’re clueless and you can gather your proof of his infidelity.   Do what you need to do – hire a friend, hire a private detective, but start gathering your proof.  This could help you in court. 

TIP #2

START PUTTING AWAY MONEY

I don’t care if you make minimum wage.  Girl, you’ve got to start putting money aside.  Go to the bank and open a bank account without his name on it.  Put half of your paycheck in that account and pretend you’re not making as much money to contribute to your joint account.  Tell him they cut your hours or gave you a pay cut.  It doesn’t matter.  Just put your money in your account, and leave him in the dark.  What he doesn’t know will help you.

TIP #3

TAKE MONEY FROM YOUR JOINT ACCOUNT AND PUT IT IN YOUR ACCOUNT – A LITTLE AT A TIME

Get yourself to the ATM, and pull out $50 or $100 at a time, or just any amount that he won’t really notice, and slip it into your account.  Think of it this way.  He’s spending money on some bimbo – whether it be hotel rooms or dinners – you get to get some of that money back.  Take it and put it away.  It will be your cushion when you move out into your own place.  

TIP #4

MAKE YOUR PLAN TO LEAVE

Have a solid plan written out with a deadline on when to leave.  When you write out your goals, you will be more successful in implementing them.  Stick to your plan.  He will try anything in his repertoire to keep you.  He will show you pictures from the past, bring up memories, write or call your friends, talk to your family.  KEEP YOUR FOCUS.  Remember that he broke your trust and betrayed you, and it’s time for him to go. 

TIP #5

DON’T BE AFRAID TO LEAVE THE HOUSE BEHIND

“Don’t ever fall in love with a house”, my dad used to tell me.  Things can be destroyed, and if you fall in love with them, it’s harder to leave them behind.  Think of that house as your cage, and you want to be set free.  If there are belongings in the house that you want to take with you, then move them out little by little and put them in storage.  Tell him you’re redecorating or down-sizing.  You’re going to get your 50% anyway in the divorce.

TIP #6

PROTECT YOURSELF

Desperate men do desperate things.  Make sure that when you do spring it on him that you’re leaving, have a friend or loved one with you that can protect you.  If you have your ducks in a row, you’re going to be more secure and confident in your decision, and not feel insecure that you can’t take care of yourself.  You CAN take care of yourself.  You’re a strong, intelligent and independent woman who planned this and was smart about it.  Think with your head and not your emotions.  Also, if you have children, protect them too.  He will try to use them against you.  Take the children with you so the court won’t say that you abandoned them.  There are many programs to help single mothers.  Use them.  If you feel like you’re in danger, get an order of protection against him, and that will protect you further.