Ladies...Be Kind to Yourself

Ladies, I hope that you will listen to what I’m going to tell you because I’ve been there.  We work so hard to reach our goals for our lives, our kids, and our homes that we forget to be kind to ourselves.  What does this even look like?  It can take on many forms, and I will name a few here.  But first, I want to remind you that when you love yourself enough to be kind to yourself, it makes you more inclined to be kind to the man (or men) you’re dating.  When we don’t feel our best, sometimes we tend to be short with men.  Although they are physically strong, they are actually very sensitive creatures, some of whom have been very traumatized by women.  Don’t be one of those insensitive women who don’t consider that a man has feelings.  When you take time to show yourself kindness, you have more capability to show kindness to those around you.

Here are the Dos and Don’ts of Self Kindness:

Do

Do make a list of things that you would like to achieve.  Goals are super important to keep us on track and reach our potential in life.  Goals develop our self - esteem and pride in our accomplishments.

Don’t

Don’t make a ‘to do’ list a mile long and feel bad that you didn’t check it all off.  This is cruel and can cause guilt and shame. 

Do

Do take time to exercise.  Being active can make you feel so good about yourself.  This doesn’t mean you have to spend hours in the gym or even go to a gym.   You can get out and go for a walk and listen to some positive affirmations.  This can set the day in a great direction and set you up for success.

Don’t

Don’t feel guilty if you only have 10 minutes for a brief workout.  The important thing to remember is consistency.  Pat yourself on the back for giving that 10 minutes instead of feeling bad that you didn’t do more.

Do

Do take a few minutes a day to collect your thoughts and meditate on what you have done positively this day.  Close your door and let the kids know that you need some quiet for 5 minutes.  This will really boost your self – esteem and help you to realize what a force you are.

Don’t

Don’t neglect your mental health so much that you feel overwhelmed enough to cry.  Just a small break each day can help you reset your mind to a positive state.

Do

Do take time to be thankful.  Just 5 minutes of thankfulness practice will put you in a state of mind that will attract others and have them smiling at you without even doing anything.  Acknowledging what your thankful for will open up your life to be further blessed.

Don’t

Don’t focus on what you lack.  When you think about lack, you attract more lack, and begin to complain.  A complaining person is very unattractive. 

Do

Do take some time to pamper yourself.  What this looks like depends on the person.  Maybe it’s getting your nails done or getting a massage.  Whatever makes you feel great physically, mentally and emotionally is your jam, so go for it.

Don’t

Don’t prevent yourself from some pampering because you feel guilty about spending the money.  You don’t even have to spend any money to find a way to pamper yourself. Take a long, hot bath, polish your nails, or soak your feet.  These are no cost, and make you feel great!

Do

Do eat healthy, fresh food.  If you put good food in your body, you will have energy and better health, and these things make you feel more confident and beautiful. 

Don’t

Don’t fill your body with fast food, potato chips and sugar.  These unhealthy food choices make you feel sluggish and tired.