Rules for Guys on a Date

Today’s dating scene is so difficult.  I can spot a couple on a first date so easily.  They’re usually the most uncomfortable looking couple in the place, glancing awkwardly at each other and desperately trying to make a connection.  It makes me wonder how did this guy get this girl to go out with him in the first place?  He must have either gotten lucky or he knows some moves that got her attention.  Well, now that you got that first date, don’t blow it.  Here’s some basic rules that you should follow if you want to be successful in the dating world.  So many men don’t know or follow these rules, and they don’t get the best out of their relationships, so take to heart what I tell you because good women like a worthy man.  I know what I say isn’t ‘politically correct’ or ’modern’, but those things are bullshit.  A woman worth your time wants a man who brings it, and if you want a real relationship, follow these tips to help you get that. 

#1:  Open the door for her

So many women will say that this isn’t necessary.  You don’t want those bitches.  They feign strength and independence, but real strength accepts kindness, and that’s what this simple gesture is – an act of kindness.  It shows respect and shows your date that you want to give them attention. 

#2:  Compliment her

So many men play it cool and hold back when it comes to compliments.  They think nice things about a woman, but keep those thoughts to themselves.  Women like to be complimented, especially from a guy they’re interested in.  If you want to grab her attention, tell her that she looks beautiful when you meet.  I’m not saying overdo it, but put the compliment out there and watch her smile.  BUT…..be sincere about the compliment.  Don’t be fake.  She will read you like a book.

#3:  Pay

This can be a hot topic because there are so many horrible women who go out on dates for a free meal.  They are so shitty.  This is why I suggest a more simple first meeting – maybe meet for a coffee or a glass of wine.  Offer to pay.  This is a simple gesture that won’t break the bank and after a very small investment, you can decide if you’re interested in a second date.  At the second date, you can go to dinner or something that is more expensive an activity.  I have a cousin who is desperate as hell.  He invests money that he doesn’t have on women who haven’t earned it, and time after time they go on one date with him (at most 2 dates) and then they ghost him.  He tries to impress them up front with a fancy, expensive dinner, and basically, he blows his wad.  Of course, he doesn’t listen to me because he has made the same mistake over and over for years, and yes, you guessed it, he’s alone. 

#4:  Ask her questions about herself

Who on this planet doesn’t like to talk about themselves?  I can’t tell you how many men go on and on about themselves to impress a woman, only to sound as if they’re on a job interview, spouting bullet points from their resume.  It’s quite BORING to a woman who is sincerely looking for love.  Stop blabbering on about yourself and ask her questions about herself.  I’m not saying drill her like she’s enlisting in the military, but ask thoughtful questions and sincerely listen to her answers. This will give you the information you need to decide if you’re interested in a second date.

#5:  Listen

Have you ever heard the saying There is a reason why we have two ears and one mouth?  It’s so clever and so true.  If you listen more than you speak, you can have practically any woman you want.  You can’t pretend to listen.  It’s always obvious.  My husband tries to fake listen.  We will be in a conversation on the phone, and I know when he’s fake listening when he says, “Yeah”, at inappropriate times in the conversation.  Then I’ll say something random like, “The sky is blue and cloudy” and he comes back to the conversation.  I, of course, call him out and we have a good laugh. 

#6:  Walk her to her door

After you met her for a coffee or some other drink and decided you wanted to get to know her more, you took her on a nice date and had a great time.   Now what?  Well, you need to make sure she gets home ok.  This will set you apart from other schmucks in the dating scene.  At the end of the date, don’t just wave goodbye with a hug.  You’ll look like a loser.  If you came separately, walk her to her car, open the door (remember tip #1) and depending on how the date went, you can try to plant one on her or give her a hug.  If you like her, let her know that you would like to see her again while still on this date.   If you picked her up in your car, walk her to her door and don’t be a creep.  If you want to kiss her and feel like it’s the right moment, do so, but don’t invite yourself in.  That’s just gross.  For those of you who live in cities like New York where public transportation is prominent, ride with her on the subway or get her a cab.  Remember that YOU asked HER out.  A good man makes sure she gets home safely.